I want to thank you for this article and the affirmation that separating from abuse can be a good thing even for the abuser. It was very difficult to separate myself and my children from my abuser (my sibling) and I had some people who were accusing me of "ruining the family" because they viewed my insistence on separation & boundaries as me being unforgiving to my abuser rather than viewing it as the healthiest thing I could do for me and my children.