We did everything we could... we raised our kids in a faithful, loving LCMS parish with exceptional leadership, supported them through confirmation, and then saw them upset by experiences in their post-graduate parishes in which the sermons had constant culture war themes, frequent vilification of gays, and a covert political cast that made them feel like aliens. They are now de facto "Nones" although they would describe themselves as LCMS and still enjoy attending their home parish. We can shape their formative years with us but have zero control over the church experiences they have after they graduate and move away.