My husband has offered three choices to cohabitating couples and it has always been well received. 1. Private confession/absolution followed by immediate marriage (often with big blessing/reception still held at normal date) 2. Private confession/absolution followed by lifestyle changes which enable couples to live apart/abstain until wedding with continued check INS and confession/absolution as needed 3. Public confession of sins before wedding audience at the beginning of the wedding service.

We have had couples choose all three options.