In my own experience, not being knowledgeable about the numerous psychological aspects of social interactions, and the motivations which direct our behavior, I have observed over the decades of my life that some people prefer to be more reserved and aloof as a temperamental axiom of their character. It may be a learned behavior, not inherent, but it exists inside and outside of the church. As a student in high school, I remember watching other students interact in the typical cafeteria model: there were the “cool” kids, the large cliques of outgoing kids, and the “jocks” and other athlete types, the “nerds” and the musicians, and there were the loners who sat by themselves, while I sat at a table with two others every lunch period. We preferred our own comfort zone, being mostly average, not overly sociable, not aloof, yet not over friendly. In church, believers often fall into the exclusive cliques, not unfriendly, but unwilling to reach out to visitors. Perhaps, leading by example, Pastors, elders, and deacons, should be the first ones to break the ice.